I think I'd handle the situation in this manner. The friends we'd ride with are the folks DH works with, and here (both overseas and in the military), it makes for a pretty closenit group with some trust involved. If the gift did make me uncomfortable, if DH did react the same as your BF, I'd surely be hesistant and immediately refuse (and in front of the group), "Oh gosh, no! That's too much I can't accept that! But thank you for thinking of me". If that doesn't work and he persists, graciously take it, say thanks.Andrew78108 wrote:If the BF wasn't jealous or concerned, then there would be something wrong. If another man was buying my wife $500 gifts, it would raise a lot of flags. It's not a trust issue with my wife, but more of a lack of trust in other men.
Solution? I would accept the gift, not doing so could also be rude. But I would also be more aware and careful to make sure there truly are no strings attached. Also, bring your BF along for rides. If he gets to know the other guy, he might not be so worried!
Your refusal should now be noted among everybody. That sends the message to them, that sends a message to the guy, and hopefully that will deter any subsequent extravagent gifts.
As for your BF, hopefully he just saw this all take place. If not you should immediately discuss it with him, tell him how it went, then say "what do we do?". Let him know receiving gifts from men is not what you wanted and you are on his side thinking "maybe he is trying to get into my pants?".
I think taking your BF riding too would be a good solid move. Don't forget to dote on him a bit to really send the message you are with him and only him.