Ladies - Evil looks from nonriding women, why?

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Ladies - Evil looks from nonriding women, why?

#1 Unread post by debbrango » Fri Apr 29, 2005 4:51 am

When I go to events & stuff, I get the most evil hateful looks from women that don't ride. They'll be on the back of their man's bike just hating me.
They don't even know me, they just hate me for the way I look. I'm in no way stuck on myself, but I do take care of myself, & for my age(forty something) I don't look half bad. But I bust my butt in the gym, they don't know that I was made fun of in high school for being the "Poor Fat Girl" & had to drop out because this pack of girls made every day hell.
Women that do ride come over & we talk with no problem.
Last week I did a ride with my husband at a local store, on the ride there was a huge hill, bumper to bumper bikes. I stalled going up the hill & was havin a bit of a problem, a couple guys were behind me with their wives on the backs of their bikes. the men were saying like "you're ok, don't panic" & stuff like that. i glanced over my shoulder to thank the guys & oh my god, the looks from their women was pure hate.
WHY ARE WOMEN SO JEALOUS & HATEFUL?? When I see an attractive women I comment to my husband "she's pretty", or something to that effect, because I know what I went thru as a kid & maybe she did to & if we say hi & talk maybe we'll find out if we have anything in common.
but noooooooooo, they would just rather hate me.

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#2 Unread post by Mer » Fri Apr 29, 2005 7:30 am

They're probably just jealous that your riding your own bike! I've heard many guys say that there is nothing sexier than a women riding a bike. (and they didn't mean ON THE BACK of a bike) Good luck!
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#3 Unread post by barmy_carmy » Fri Apr 29, 2005 12:51 pm

Hiya Deb, I am a pillion, but there is no way on this earth I could possibly hate my fellow biker...Man or Woman. I say good on any female riding her own 2 wheels, and if I had the money, I would be one of you, but I'll have to make do with pillion. And for those Bimbo's that turn there nose up.................Shame on you! Ignore em Deb...they're not worth it Lol! I think its great that you ride your own wheels.............enjoy and have fun! :laughing:
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#4 Unread post by SilveradoGirl » Fri Apr 29, 2005 10:19 pm

I get the same looks from time to time, and I gotta tell you it isn't because I am a raving beauty. I am 5'8" tall and 280 lbs....They don't hate you cuz your beautiful,(although I am sure you are) they are just pure jealous cuz your riding your own ride! When you took on the challenge to be the driver of your own bike, you joined an elite group of people, the "guys". All those women's husbands and boyfriends are treating you like one of the boys and it drives other women nuts! Me personally, I love to drive 'em nuts!!! After I bought my Yamaha Silverado, my dealer, a good friend, shook my hand and told me he didn't think there was anything cooler in the world than a chick riding her own ride, and he welcomed me to the club. Let them be haters if they wanna be....life's too short for you, just ride and have fun!!

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#5 Unread post by 9000white » Sat Apr 30, 2005 7:29 am

one thing to remember when you encounter these people filled with jealousy and hate--you are a Giraffe among Swine.
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#6 Unread post by Ladymx » Sun May 01, 2005 4:23 pm

Mer wrote:They're probably just jealous that your riding your own bike! I've heard many guys say that there is nothing sexier than a women riding a bike. (and they didn't mean ON THE BACK of a bike) Good luck!
I have to agree with this in part, as I do find that some women are not jealous, but perfer to be on the back. I also know some men that wont let there women ride there own bikes..What are we in the stone age.
Now with the little travel I have done on my own, being a lady rider. I get mixed reviews all the time and some people dont know what to think. In the end it really doesnt matter, as long as your enjoying your self. There is not a whole lot you can do about what others think, when they dont even want to talk to you in the first place, only pass judgement with a look. :wink:

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#7 Unread post by Loonette » Fri May 06, 2005 6:34 am

I've not noticed anything that seemed as overt as what you've experienced, but I know that it can happen. It's one reason I tend to stay away from rallies and such - usually (and yes, I'm generalizing) there's too much liquor and too much attitude all in one place. I prefer to ride my bike to something like a small blues festival. I'm bound to find other riders there, but also they are there for another common interest - this is a much more positive time for me.

Try to let it roll off when it happens - there's nothing worse than letting the attitudes of others spoil your ride or your day. Let it remain their problem, and you'll be all the better.

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#8 Unread post by Rebeccaatthewell » Sat May 07, 2005 12:53 am

I think it does have something to do with women making room for themselves in a male dominated environment. I don't know about guys thinking women look good on bikes, (have not experienced that myself) :laughing: but I do know that there are a lot of ladies that wish that they could ride on their own bike but due to finiancial or even plain old fear they don't think it will ever happen for them. Unfortunatly, these few women (and I do believe that they are a small group) have let jealousy over either insecurity in their own men, the ability or means to ride their own bike, or they are just not the type to challange a male dominated group as an equal. It is said that you have experienced this kind of predjuice especially in a group that has so much in common, but be careful also that you don't misread the look you get as well. Coming from a rough childhood myself, I have found that people like us have to watch a tendacy to intrepret everything as personal to us, and you never know, the woman who looked at you might have just been remembering an arguement she recently had. Wow, I think that was more than my two cents... sorry :)

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#9 Unread post by chickenhawk » Sun May 08, 2005 8:37 am

Women can be catty. I doubt they're jealous of the fact that you ride- it's more likely the fact that you may have a better :censored: and that it's too close to their guy.

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#10 Unread post by Mer » Sun May 08, 2005 8:44 am

Maybe it's not really that they are jealous that you ride your own, but jealous of the reactions you get from men BECAUSE you ride your own. :scooter:
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#11 Unread post by Sev » Sun May 08, 2005 9:01 am

Mer wrote:Maybe it's not really that they are jealous that you ride your own, but jealous of the reactions you get from men BECAUSE you ride your own. :scooter:
Speaking as a male this makes the most sense to me. I've been thinking about this sort of thing for a while, and I would find it more enjoyable to have someone that I could go riding with. Instead of someone I can throw on the back and drag around.
There's a certain connection that you get spending that sort of time together. Besides I've always been attracted to self-confidence, and you have to be self-confident to ride.
All in all, I have to say, "Bugger them." I have no respect for people who are abusive towards someone without understanding who they are. I was teased a lot as a kid, so it took me a long time to realize this, but if you don't respect someone (which I think you don't in this case) why do you care what they think? It's their failing, not yours. And just proves that you're better then they are.
Keep riding, keep ignoring them, if you're having fun out there, then never stop.
Of course I'm generalizing from a single example here, but everyone does that. At least I do.

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#12 Unread post by blues2cruise » Tue May 10, 2005 12:14 am

I haven't experienced any problems since I started riding. Long ago when I was a "soccer Mom", the other Mom's would have nothing to do with me, but the Dad's were friendly. I think it has to do with the fact that some women are just very insecure.

I suspect these nasty women see you as a threat. Don't let them bother you. There are plenty of us out there who are not nasty. :)
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#13 Unread post by Loonette » Tue May 10, 2005 8:54 am

blues2cruise wrote:I haven't experienced any problems since I started riding. Long ago when I was a "soccer Mom", the other Mom's would have nothing to do with me, but the Dad's were friendly. I think it has to do with the fact that some women are just very insecure.

I suspect these nasty women see you as a threat. Don't let them bother you. There are plenty of us out there who are not nasty. :)
I hear ya, Blues. I'm a "soccer mom" right now! It's funny - I'm pierced all over, tattoos, I talk about bikes and cars - I don't exactly fit the part. I'm pretty talkative though, and I've found that when I engage others in a conversation and give them a little attention, things are quite pleasant. I might get a vibe that they're not my kind of person, but I can still get along just by being friendly. If someone is standoffish, I let it be their issue.

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#14 Unread post by Rebecca » Thu May 12, 2005 3:24 am

Do like I do... Killem with kindness..
You know we all have it in us to be jealious every now and again.

Thats probley whats happend here to. GIVE THEM A FULL SMILE and say to your self, if you looked as good as I do... You would be setting here :)
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#15 Unread post by Digginit » Thu May 12, 2005 9:10 am

I don't think I ever notice how women look at me. The two women that I ride with ride their own bikes too. The other people I ride with are men. What I DO notice, being in a small conservative town, is that it's quite unladylike <snicker> to ride a Harley....lol. It's also unladylike to skydive...heh. AND it's unladylike to walk into Wal-Mart in yesterday's t-shirt and scrub pants....HA! Somehow the world keeps turning....

edited to add: Ummmm...."tricycle squid?" LMAO!

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#16 Unread post by Wizzard » Wed Jul 13, 2005 10:05 pm

For years I packed my spousette . She is on her 3rd scoot now and she finally got something that fit her and that she truly enjoys . As for me , I like it a lot better and besides I now have someone I love to ride with on the weekends . She works for the FedGov and rides to work on most days .
What I have found over the years is that a lot of men are intimidated by her . Before her bouts with cancer she was pretty svelte . At 6' in her stocking feet and covered with ink , it always cracked me up when shopping albeit the grocery store or elsewheres , men would want to stare at her but were afraid to ....so they would be sneaking peeks .............true story .
What was even funnier , for a long time we would go places and some folks would ask "Would you like to buy this for your daughter ?" cause there is an almost 20 year difference in our ages as well as an almost 6" difference in our heights .
Just thought I would share because I can empathize with what you're saying about the looks and sneers . Perhaps all it is are folks feeling intimidated and nothing more .
Just remember _Now for the best and later for the garbage .
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#17 Unread post by barmy_carmy » Thu Jul 14, 2005 8:21 am

Hiya wizzard, I used to have that problem where my other half was mistaken for my Dad, but there is only 10yrs difference, not so much these days though got a few character lines Lol :laughing: But personally I'm only a pillion, I find women who ride their own bikes are Cool, and a great laugh and good fun to be with. If I had the funds I would be joining many women riders. But alas I have to remain pillion :( And to all you women riders out there "Ride On" It doesnt matter what other people think, as long as your happy riding, do what you want to do. If anyones got a problem with women riders, it's their problem not yours, just pass any snide comment back! or better still ignore them! Happy safe riding to you all!
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#18 Unread post by Blexcroid » Sat Jul 16, 2005 7:26 am

JEALOUSY JEALOUSY JEALOUSY! Not to mention you probably have a body that you've taken good care of and they'd die to have! :P
Some men (note I said SOME) just want a babe to be a trophy on the back of their bike, and these women may be stuck with guys like that.
My advice? Just hold your head up and :mrgreen: !

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#19 Unread post by FishStix » Sat Jul 16, 2005 8:38 pm

Never had that happen, so I can't really comment without sheer speculation.
Frankly, who cares what sort of looks they give you? Carry on.... Know what I mean? :wink:

Matter of factly, I've had quite the opposite responses where ladies, chicks, women, whathaveyou will take a minute to come over and chat.

Now, if I can just get the little old ladies to stop locking their car doors at red lights... :roll:
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#20 Unread post by greenmountainman » Thu Jul 21, 2005 8:59 pm

Funny you mention this as it has been a topic at my house. My wife is very attractive and for having two children she is in remarkably good shape. However, she mentions this same thing to me quite a bit. Women treat her differently then men do. Often times they treat her very "catty". I suspect it has something to do with jealousy on some level. Be it physical appearance, personal abilities, etc. I just tell her to hold her head high and be the person that she is. If that is the type of person who is throwing the glare chooses to be then they are missing out on life and you should take pride in knowing that you are better than they are.

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