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Re: Overcoming fear after a crash?

#21 Unread post by blues2cruise » Tue Aug 30, 2011 9:03 am

learn to overcome those survival instincts
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I would prefer to hone my survival instincts.

And..thanks for the apology because yes it did sound very patronizing....women are not exclusive to having a lot on their brains. :roll: :rant:
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Re: Overcoming fear after a crash?

#22 Unread post by sapaul » Thu Sep 01, 2011 6:01 am

blues2cruise wrote:
learn to overcome those survival instincts
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I would prefer to hone my survival instincts.

And..thanks for the apology because yes it did sound very patronizing....women are not exclusive to having a lot on their brains. :roll: :rant:
Ah, but you hang out with sophisticated people, I hang out with hairy arsed bikers who think that caramel vodka is just the Bizz
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Re: Overcoming fear after a crash?

#23 Unread post by apachesue » Wed Nov 16, 2011 8:56 am

clutch wrote:Hi, Ladies

I'm new here. I'm so glad to find this place!

My fiance has been riding for about 20 years. I've been riding as a passenger for 2 years.

He surprised me and got a Honda Rebel 250. I completed the MSF beginners course in June so I could start riding.

On my first trek outside of the neighborhood, I crashed. I was trying to keep up with him while going around a curve, but I ran off the road.

Three months later, my leg has finally healed up enough to try riding again. So I tried to ride today. I just stayed on our neighborhood street.

Although I thought I was ready physically & emotionally, the fear took over. The only thing I could think was "I'm going to crash! I'm going to crash! I'm going to crash!" I never made it off of our street. And I almost crashed twice!

I want to ride, but I'm afraid to get back on the bike.

How do you conquer your fear after a crash?
Hi everyone,

Well, I had a very similar experience on my 1st ride out about a month ago. We were out for a bit too long, I think, for my 1st ride. I was doing okay, but could feel the fatigue from being nervous set in. I ran it into a ditch going down a long sloping curve. I was fine, as I am a committed ATGATT rider; the bike just lost a footpeg and dented the tank. Due to weather, vacation, and yes fear, I have not been back on - yet. But I will not let that stop me.

What I have to navigate is my BF has been riding all his life. The ride we took was to him, the simplest of easy rides. For me, it was just a challenge to remember all the things I had to do just to get the bike to go and stop. I rode horses for years, and I remember what it was like trying to learn how to ride, and what to do with my feet and hands and eyes and balance and... so I know it will all come with time and practice.

My next ride needs to be 20 minutes, not an hour and a half. It needs to be EASY with not much in the way of curves and hills. My question is: is it better to just go out on my own, not having to worry about keeping up or following anyone? My guy is a smart and caring man - I know he doesn't want to put me at risk. I just think it is near impossible for him to put himself in my place with all the experience he has had. He's got well over 500k miles.

Yeah, and I felt REALLY stupid too. I just have to get over THAT!

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Re: Overcoming fear after a crash?

#24 Unread post by pchast » Wed Nov 16, 2011 11:23 pm

Yes, it is better to go it alone if you can not convince your SO to follow you. You need to ride your own ride and get more experience before you extend yourself at all. On any one day it might be 15 minutes instead of a 1/2 hour.

On the same note you should probably be looking for a local parking lot that you could use to improve your skills before extended riding again. Its amazing how quickly we loose our edge.

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Re: Overcoming fear after a crash?

#25 Unread post by blues2cruise » Thu Nov 17, 2011 12:52 am

Baby steps. A little at a time and eventually you will gain your confidence back.
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Re: Overcoming fear after a crash?

#26 Unread post by sapaul » Thu Nov 17, 2011 2:55 am

I also find that practicing one thing at a time also helps. Set your self a goal. Get your guy to take you to a parking lot when it is quiet. Practice mounting the bike, going though your start procedure, ride a short distance and then stop , stop the bike and dismount.

It's like exercise, your body and mind remember the sequences without it being in the conscious mind. practice enough and then it becomes automatic.

Send your man for coffee if you are uncomfortable with him watching. There is nothing more motivational and confidence building than achieving a goal on your own
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Re: Overcoming fear after a crash?

#27 Unread post by apachesue » Thu Nov 17, 2011 8:37 am

Great ideas. I really like the one thing at a time idea. That forces taking it slowly and does allow that mind-body connection that is so important to develop.

Thanks so much!

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#28 Unread post by sapaul » Mon Nov 21, 2011 4:12 am

Glad to help. I have had a couple of really nervous girls (for training) I asked them both to write down what they wanted to do. They wrote things in a different order, so I trained them in the order they wrote stuff down, even though it was not what I thought should come first. That made a huge difference. I think because they overcame the obstacles that they saw as the biggest challenges in an order that they wanted and not what was imposed on them by "conventional training"

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Re: Overcoming fear after a crash?

#29 Unread post by dr_bar » Mon Nov 21, 2011 6:15 pm

I would still ride with your SO, but you lead and set the pace. When it's time to go home, you go home. Build up to the long rides slowly, next thing you know, you'll be doing a cross country ride and pushing 500 mile days... :o)
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Re: Overcoming fear after a crash?

#30 Unread post by apachesue » Mon Nov 21, 2011 6:39 pm

dr_bar wrote:I would still ride with your SO, but you lead and set the pace. When it's time to go home, you go home. Build up to the long rides slowly, next thing you know, you'll be doing a cross country ride and pushing 500 mile days... :o)

That is the plan now. I've expained how it all felt to him and we've decided we will do a very short ride on Wednesday assuming the weather holds. We will keep it easy and local. He is very supportive, as understanding as his 'iron butt' self can be. We will work through this, as I am committed to not just learning to ride, but learning to ride well. 500 mile days? Yeah...I'll get there.

Thanks for the encouragement and advice. It really does help.

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#31 Unread post by apachesue » Fri Nov 25, 2011 8:16 am

Okay, so we went out on Wednesday and all went well. We were probably out for half an hour, and I'm sure I annoyed every driver on the road due to my speed (or lack thereof...), but I was intent on not doing anything out of my comfort zone. I was really nervous for the ride, but didn't crash, or drop the bike or anything.

Next time might be a little longer, or with a few more curves, but I'm going to take my time. My guy was supportive, kind and patient (of course). There is definitely something to be said about getting back on the horse.

Thanks again for all your encouragement and suggestions.

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Re: Overcoming fear after a crash?

#32 Unread post by pchast » Sat Nov 26, 2011 12:40 am

Ya done good.
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#33 Unread post by sapaul » Sat Nov 26, 2011 2:17 am

Well done, remember to enjoy the ride and big up to your SO for the support
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#34 Unread post by apachesue » Sat Nov 26, 2011 9:13 am

sapaul wrote:Well done, remember to enjoy the ride and big up to your SO for the support

Oh, I showed my appreciation in the best possible way... :naughty:

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Re: Overcoming fear after a crash?

#35 Unread post by sapaul » Mon Nov 28, 2011 1:54 am

What, you made him a pie and bought him beer



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#36 Unread post by apachesue » Mon Nov 28, 2011 7:54 am

sapaul wrote:What, you made him a pie and bought him beer



Lucky guy.
Um, yes! But that was later...

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#37 Unread post by freebird73 » Wed Feb 22, 2012 7:15 am

I am still very new to riding and just dumped my bike for the first time two weeks ago, I was in full gear (except boots, which I now have), luckily I was mostly scraped and bruised (especially the ego). I "got back on the horse" just yesterday and was gripped by fear. My husband rode behind me around the neighborhood and that was comforting.
We made it back to the driveway and I just didn't like that I was so scared of it, so i jumped back on it and rode until a lot of the fear subsided on a long quiet back road we have close by.
If i said I wasn't still afraid of it, that would be a lie, but I am hoping the fear and panic ease over time the more I ride. The advice to practice in a parking lot sounds great, cause although I fell going straight when a car turned suddenly in front of me and i over reacted and mashed the front brake, I found it is the turns i stiffen up at, just like the first time i rode.

I am grateful to have found this site where there are women that understand and have advice for women. Thanks ladies :D

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#38 Unread post by sapaul » Thu Feb 23, 2012 2:25 am

Hi Freebird, I have read a few of your posts on the forum and would like to ask you a question. When you sit on your bike, are your hips tilted well forward and do you stretch a little to reach the bars ?
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#39 Unread post by freebird73 » Thu Feb 23, 2012 3:05 am

Sapaul

i am actually very comfortable on my bike i am able to sit straight up and reach the bars, and depending on the slope of the pavement i am able to reach the ground, im 5'9" . Why do you ask?

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#40 Unread post by sapaul » Thu Feb 23, 2012 9:19 am

You have PM
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