Going alone

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nebulachic · Tue May 30, 2006 7:12 am

Hi there,

New to the biker world and this forum. My b/f of 9 months just informed me he is going to a biker rally with a male friend. They have gone toggether usually with their sons the past 15 years. He used to be married and told me he was bummed his wife was never into it. Thing is... I AM! I have ridden with him every time he's asked and he told me not long ago he keeps picturing us going on a cross-country trip together. I've even expressed interest in buying my own bike! I don't understand why he hasn't invited me!

He told me it was a guy thing and initially made it sound like his son would be going but later on said he probably isn't. He didn't indicate his friends' son was going either. When I sort of put up a stink about it he said "I didn't think you'd be interested. It's just a bunch of grease monkeys and races."

He did finally invite me but I felt it was just to placate me. He said "If it's bad weather I'm not going to put you on the back of my bike though." (Hmmm.. his friend has always driven a car until this year he got his own bike. He could suggest I drive up if he really wanted me to go.)

Think he's leaving me behind bcuz he's hoping to get some "action" while there? Don't most guys bring their women if they are into it??? Ladies, would this bother you?

dieziege · #2 Unread post by **dieziege** » Tue May 30, 2006 7:19 am

While he is gone go buy your bike and learn to ride it...

Then kick that zero to the curb and find yourself a hero baby.

Or something like that.

#3 Unread post by **bok** » Tue May 30, 2006 7:26 am

depending on the bike rally he might think you aren't quite low brow enough, sometimes they can be a little on the tasteless side (like the low speed race where the female passenger has to bob for a hotdog on a string).

not knowing the guy i would say he might want to go just to let off some steam and it's probably not to get action, since there are many better places to go, i would think, if that were his intention.

sharpmagna · Tue May 30, 2006 7:52 am

Girls have a "Girls Night Out" so why can't he just hang out with the guys. Unless your afraid he's going to be doing what you girls are doing on your nights out

In all seriousness, he may have a valid reason concerning the bad weather comment. It gets harder to control a bike in the rain so maybe he doesn't want to put you in harms way.

BuzZz · #5 Unread post by **BuzZz** » Tue May 30, 2006 7:35 pm

Hunny, I love you.

And I want to spend the rest of my life with you alone.

But sometimes we can be in 2 different places at the same time, doing different activities.... just once in awhile..... you know, so I get a chance to miss you?..... is it getting a little close in here?....... is there enough air in here?.... please stop staring at me...... just wanna hang-out with my old friend for a few days....... doesn't mean I love you less or anything like that..... o.k.?

Thanx Babe.... see ya in a week!!!!

Wed May 31, 2006 1:27 am

Personally it wouldn't bother me, as long as im included sometimes, it dosen't have to be all the time. If I were me and it was just a guys thing then I would let him go. Trust me if he wanted "action" it dosen't take a bike rally to get it.

Driving up in car while they are on bikes suxs, being on a bike with bad weather suxs evern more. Let him go, have a girls night out and forget about it.

#7 Unread post by **Lion_Lady** » Wed May 31, 2006 6:05 pm

dieziege wrote:While he is gone go buy your bike and learn to ride it...

Then kick that zero to the curb and find yourself a hero baby.

Or something like that.

+1

Or at least, sign up for the MSF Basic Riders Course while he's gone. Guys can be so funny about stuff.

Do you REALLY have any doubts about whether he would be unfaithful? If so, then there is more for you to work on than riding.

P

#8 Unread post by **ZooTech** » Thu Jun 01, 2006 5:35 am

Not to intrude on the estrogen festival in here, but if your boyfriend is going to cheat on you...he's going to cheat on you. He doesn't have to wait for an annual bike meet to do it. He probably doesn't want you along for the same reason he doesn't tell you the same jokes he tells the fellas at work, because guys like to get crude and tasteless from time to time and most women just don't get it. Let him go be a guy for a few days and take the opportunity to go be a girl....whatever that entails.

#9 Unread post by **Sev** » Thu Jun 01, 2006 12:43 pm

ZooTech wrote:Not to intrude on the estrogen festival in here, but if your boyfriend is going to cheat on you...he's going to cheat on you. He doesn't have to wait for an annual bike meet to do it. He probably doesn't want you along for the same reason he doesn't tell you the same jokes he tells the fellas at work, because guys like to get crude and tasteless from time to time and most women just don't get it. Let him go be a guy for a few days and take the opportunity to go be a girl....whatever that entails.

+1

Then give him a reason to never leave again when he gets back... if you know what I mean

Princess · #10 Unread post by **Princess** » Thu Jun 01, 2006 7:43 pm

'Most' men take their women.
He asked you in a round about way,

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