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It's always easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask permission

As mentioned above, if you're not dependant on them then it's your money to do what you want with.

Go camping with your dad or fishing or whatever seperates the two for a few days with no means of communication. Get your dad sold on the idea then present it to your mom.

"gotta have a plan son. You wanna make it out of here alive?"

Well, I'm in the camp that told my family after the fact. Actually I've done it plenty of times with other things so I suppose they shouldn't have been too shocked. Well I kind of lied to them - I told my dad I had one before I did, I told my mom after I got it.

I did the same with my tattoo and when I was 18 and pierced my eyebrow (since removed) that I had it before I did, to guage the reaction.

I think you're going to have to figure out what works best with your parents..none of us can really help you with that part.

Yah I didn't think so, never hurts to ask though.


I won't be telling them for a while though. I want to get all the money first so I can get an OK and then buy it the next day or so before they have time to think about it or something along those lines. If they say no, I still have the money and can, hopefully, weedle them down.


And yes they're paying for my college tuition so they have a lot of say in the matter, unfortunately.


I plan on trying to get my sister involved next time we're both home. And not involved in helping convince my parents, just like going looking at bikes wtih me or something like that. I don't know if she'll agree but I'll ask her anyways and try and show her that aspect of the MC area. Explain which bike I want, why, and compare it to bikes I don't want (Busa) and while I'm there show her all the safety gear that's available and how goofy I'll look in a helmet (she'll love to pick on me for that).

And yes, my sister is older than me. We're just siblings and pick on each other.

oldschoolorange wrote:Do what I did Just show up with the thing, I was told I would be kicked out of the house if I got a bike............

I still live in the basement

That's funny. My parents said exactly the same thing to me. I got kicked out

Shiv wrote:I won't be telling them for a while though. I want to get all the money first so I can get an OK and then buy it the next day or so before they have time to think about it or something along those lines. If they say no, I still have the money and can, hopefully, weedle them down.

I must admit I'd go the other route... tell them as soon as possible that you are looking towards it, but are still saving for all the safety gear first. gives them time to get used to it, and the longer it takes, the more confidence they "should" have that you're going about it the right way.


But then I don't know you or your parents that well, so you gotta pick what works for you

My parents didn't really care one way or the other aside from telling me to wear a helmet (which I do anyway, despite not being required to by law). My dad never had a problem with em, just no desire to ride one. My mom tried to learn to ride about 20 years ago but her back problems kept her from being able to ride more than a few minutes. My step mother rode for years (she had a Suzuki GS750 for years) but stopped after she blew out her knee during a lowside, she has thought about getting back into it since her knee hasn't been a problem in years.

My father in law puts more miles on his Harley than his cage during riding season. He was part of the reason why I finally committed to learning to ride (I had wanted to since high school but always put it off).

You can ask my wife about the parents and tattoo thing. She just recently got her first tattoo. Her dad is cool with it, and we plan to never tell her mom about it as her mom has always been very opposed to tattoos (her parents like mine are happily divorced).