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Yeah, there is no way I would just show up one day with a bike. I guess I'll just have a mature conversation with her, tell her about the MSF course, safety gear I'll be buying, etc. I'm sure she'll never be happy about it, but as long as she lets me do it that's all that matters really. I should probably wait until after she gets me the job at Kohl's before we discuss it, or she might put in a bad word to her boss...

Danson wrote:Yeah, there is no way I would just show up one day with a bike. I guess I'll just have a mature conversation with her, tell her about the MSF course, safety gear I'll be buying, etc. I'm sure she'll never be happy about it, but as long as she lets me do it that's all that matters really. I should probably wait until after she gets me the job at Kohl's before we discuss it, or she might put in a bad word to her boss...

Yeah, definitely wait til you get the job. And show her examples of safety gear and how tough it is. Might want to print out a few examples of that and the MSF course details. Show her what the helmets have to go through in order to be DOT, much less, SNELL approved. My mom still isn't very happy about it, but I got the bike, took the class, and showed her I can do it safely, so she's "not worried about me, just about all the other people on the road" like every other mother in the world.
Wrider

Danson wrote:she was like "you can get a motorcycle when you move out"

My mother said the same and I actually had to move out (don't let this put you off though). She has come around to the idea now though (3 years on) and wants me to take her out as a pillion.

The thing to do, as others have mentioned, is show her that your serious about taking up biking properly (MSF, correct gear etc). I would suggest waiting until you have a job then you can show how you intend to finance getting a bike licence, correct gear, paying for the bike, insurance, petrol etc.

I made this page:
http://www.californiabikenights.com/learn/

Check out the .PDF file and let her look it over.

Chances are, she's gonna worry no matter what. But if you just focus on showing her some maturity and responsibility, and talk about wanting to be safe and buy all the appropriate gear, and not get a bike that is too powerful and so forth, I think she might be more likely to give in.

As others have said, if your dad is okay with it, talk to HIM first. Let him know how important it is to you and then you can have him fighting for you too.

take your local motorcycle safety class, see if riding a motorcycle is for you and if you'll be dedicated to riding, look at your financial situation and dedicate to purchasing gear that will protect you for the day we will all probably face, save your money for your motorcycle- purchase a used bike to begin with so that your investment isnt too expensive until you gain riding skills and keep talking about it w/ your mom since i am sure she's just looking out for you.....unless she's one of those people who drive and are on thier cell phones and dont pay attention......(j/k).
As an adult, take the steps to treat your folks w/ respect and in time, they will respect you and your decisions....you'll be ok amigo!

Dragonhawk wrote:I made this page:
http://www.californiabikenights.com/learn/

I don't know if my connection is messed up or not, but I don't get your website when I click on the link, I get a site with a photo of a field of flowers.

this was at 8:50pm Central Mountain Time

apollofrost wrote:

Dragonhawk wrote:I made this page:
http://www.californiabikenights.com/learn/

I don't know if my connection is messed up or not, but I don't get your website when I click on the link, I get a site with a photo of a field of flowers.

this was at 8:50pm Central Mountain Time

+1
Wrider

Get a job. Save 25% of each check. Start buying safety equipment. Store the equipment neatly, but in plain view. If your mother expresses concern, tell her it is required for the BRC, and segway into you are going to take the BRC to see how you like riding. Let your mother watch your pile grow as the weeks go by. She will be pleased that you are working toward a goal. When you have the money saved for the BRC, ask permission, though you won't really need to if you are over 18. Then, ask your mother to take the BRC with you, just for kicks.

Thanks for the advice everyone. I really doubt I could ever convince my mom to take the class with me, but i might be able to convince my dad to. I know back in the day he had gotten a motorcycle permit, and then had his friend teach him how to ride...until his friend wrecked on the parkway and spent the next while in a body cast...

You said you still get an allowance. While it is nice to receive an allowance from your parents, it does make you a dependent. You will probably never convince your Mom about a bike until you show that you can earn your own money and be responsible.

You are also relying in your Mom to get you a job.
So far, everything you said does not show her that you have the maturity as yet, to take on the big responsibility of owning, maintaining, insuring and riding a motorcycle.

At this point in time, is probably the wrong time.