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atom · #11 Unread post by **atom** » Mon Mar 12, 2007 3:13 am

ask your parents to take the MSF with you. they may offer to pay for it, they will be educated about riding, they will know you are educated about riding, they will get to watch you ace the parking lot rides, and one of them might be bit by the bug as well.

also, mom's love vespa's (as do a subset of hot tatooed girls). see if they'll let you start out on a scooter and then you can move to something bigger in a while. i'm kinda taking this approach with my wife.

Jadien · #12 Unread post by **Jadien** » Mon Mar 12, 2007 5:53 am

I completely understand where you're coming from and I have to say I agree with Fast Eddy B. I lived with my mom until last fall (I moved out to go to college full-time). I'm 24, and have been seriously researching riding and bikes since I was about 17-18ish.

Now, my situation was slightly different from yours because my mom never flat-out said "No". She would say she didn't want me to have one, but I was old enough to make my own decisions. Out of respect for her feelings, I waited.... 6 years!

This past Christmas, SHE actually paid for the MSF course. Then SHE put down some money for my birthday for me to buy my bike and gear.

See, if you wait long enough, they might see that it's not a passing fancy and actually help you get into riding the proper way!

Dave

PS- Don't let folks tell you it's time to move out just because of your age. If you have a good relationship with your parents then stay as long as you both need. Making a good transition to living on your own is more important than moving out because "you're supposed to..."

IcyHound · #13 Unread post by **IcyHound** » Mon Mar 12, 2007 6:36 am

Parents worry. When you are still in the house they are not seeing you as an adult. They still have control over you, legal age or not.

But many people still don't want to tell their parents even in their 30's and 40's.

And yes, people have a horrible view of motorcycle riders.

Kensh · #14 Unread post by **Kensh** » Mon Mar 12, 2007 8:41 am

Thanks for the help, I'm more into cruisers than crotch rockets, probably going to start on a rebel or a 600 shadow all depends on the MSF.

And im waiting till i get a good job to move out not a low paying one. They pretty much told me if i do anything motorcycle related that they would kick me out :p

I've already got my mom leaning towards agreeing to it, however my dad pretty much ignores me when i talk about it, havent asked him to take it with me yet though thats gonna come up soon

the MSF is $280 or so here in MA so its not cheap

nottheface · Mon Mar 12, 2007 9:51 am

I have the most protective parents in the world (Asian). So I knew living at their house with a motorcycle is not an option. If you live in their house you have to listen to what they say bc you still depend on them to put a roof over your head. Sucks, but you gotta face the facts.

I had to wait until I moved out and saved up enough money for gear, MSF, and bike on my own. I would recommend the same for you.

G'LUCK!

MotoF150 · #16 Unread post by **MotoF150** » Mon Mar 12, 2007 9:54 pm

excuse me, im sorry for my last post, I got carried away, my social values reflect where I live, I live in a college town and most people don't, I was wrong to inflict my values on everybody else, im sorry.

logitech104 · Mon Mar 12, 2007 9:57 pm

hmm I'll have to think about it moto

Shiv · #18 Unread post by **Shiv** » Mon Mar 12, 2007 10:16 pm

Believe me, if you want it badly enough, you'll still be wanting it that badly a few months or even years down the road (and you'll be wanting it more, taking any oppurtunity to ride that you can get like a crack junkie lol).

It's been two years since I took my MSF and I still can't afford a motorcycle (this summer, though, I should have the money for the gear, the bike (used), and the insurance all lined out).

I live with my parents during the summer and long vacations (Christmas) but other than that I live in the dorms at my college. My parents still don't know I'm licensed to ride and I don't plan to tell them til I have all the money lined out at which point I'll 'break the news' and offer to take them gear shopping/bike shopping with me to point out what I plan to buy, why, etc.

That's assuming they actually agree to come with me, much less agree to let me buy the bike while they still pay my education lol.

If you figure out a good way to tell them, let me know. But definately take the MSF, either way. Even if you have to go 'stay at a buddies for the weekend' take it regardless. I just took it in my college town (which is four hours from my home town) so it kind of worked out nicely.

eaglecatcher · Tue Mar 13, 2007 9:30 am

my parents say that they will not let me get a motorcycle when I'm under their roof, and they said "when you get into college, if you can afford one, go ahead, but don't expect any more money to be coming from us."

I dunno what I'm gonna do when the time comes. I might make a deal with them, and say I'll only ride it around campus or something, but I'm for sure getting a bike asap.

flynrider · Tue Mar 13, 2007 11:21 am

Kensh wrote: And im waiting till i get a good job to move out not a low paying one. They pretty much told me if i do anything motorcycle related that they would kick me out :p

If that's the deal and they're footing the bills, they pretty much have the last word. I was in exactly the same position as you were when I was 18. The rule at my house was : Buy a bike, find someplace else to live. I lined up a place to live, then brought my well worn, but shiny Kaw 400 home to show the folks. They weren't happy about it, but I was following their rules.