Were you ever teased, harassed, bullied???

[JC Viper]

Couldn't leave the city as a teenager and now that I'm in college I'm stuck here for a bit but it isn't so bad as it was in high school. I guess it goes with the setting, gotta have punk asss kids all over trying to prove something to be cool. The people I got messed with weren't in real gangs, just teenage crews that think they're bad and just tag up (graffiti) or smoke weed got "head" ect. I mentioned minorities not that I'm a "racist" but that it was the way it was. I had the racial slurs thrown at me but the system protected the people who did it who also happen to be of the so called minority group. I don't mention what kind since I'm not into offending people or at least try not to.

Being forced to see a child psychologist wasn't very fun but the price I pay to stand up for myself. But if someone doesn't take care of the bullying problem now the bullies will end up being worse people in the future who most likely go on to cause more problems later on.

Oh before anyone says anything I don't want to seem like I feel sorry for myself, I'm actually getting to be like Gregory House .

In asian countries many kids are put into martial arts to learn discipline. I wonder if it would do any good here. I mean the people I've seen in my classes are very respectful so maybe.

Oh and I think this exercise may be kinda useless. looks like 1/3 agrees while 2/3 disagrees. darn fractions.

[JC Viper]

Being teased taught me to have a thick skin. I'd rather have that than be a whiney little "dog" who complains at the first sign of adversity. It also taught me to not put up with the "poo poo" of others and to stand up for myself. And HELP the "little guy" stand up for themselves. How else are they going to learn to do it?

In this day and age in America you cannot stand up for yourself or you risk legal and disciplinary action, mostly if you are the victim of bullying. I had a thick skin and they went further with physical confrontation and I lost no matter who I f'ed up.

[Meanie]

Being teased taught me to have a thick skin. I'd rather have that than be a whiney little "dog" who complains at the first sign of adversity. It also taught me to not put up with the "poo poo" of others and to stand up for myself. And HELP the "little guy" stand up for themselves. How else are they going to learn to do it?

In this day and age in America you cannot stand up for yourself or you risk legal and disciplinary action, mostly if you are the victim of bullying. I had a thick skin and they went further with physical confrontation and I lost no matter who I f'ed up.

Agreed. The majority of that blame is towards the government and authorities who allow these legal actions to partake. This nation has become and continues to become a very very weak one.

[galord]

Yes, I was sometimes teased in school.
I think everyone tried this.

[Shorts]

In this day and age in America you cannot stand up for yourself or you risk legal and disciplinary action, mostly if you are the victim of bullying. I had a thick skin and they went further with physical confrontation and I lost no matter who I f'ed up.

Yup, that mentality happens in schools and corporations alike. Did you hear recently a convenient store worker was fired because he fought back in a robbery attempt where the bad guy was up at the front counter with his female coworker? But the store policy was to cooperate during all robberies and give them whatever they demand. So where is the line drawn? What if the bad guy starts demanding the female take off her clothes? What if he crawls on top of her and says 'don't scream'? Where the heck is the line??? No person in their right mind would stand by while an attacker is victimizing the person next to you and you knew you couldn't let that happen.

This nation is becoming a bunch of ninnies who don't take hard lines where there needs to be hard lines. Is there a time and place for diplomatic talks, negotiating, cooperating?? Sure. But there is also a time for hard action. Punishing someone who stands up for right is an injustice. THis country gives more rights and privileges to criminal and ugly citizens than it does to the good law-abiding ones. That's messed up.

[koji52]

I don't want to offend anyone or sound like an insensitive prick as I love this message board and reading what others have to say, but I feel like many people carry way too much emotional baggage which resulted from things that happened years and years ago. Life is too short and precious to let the "Donut Holes" in grade school and high school mess it up permanently. We all carry the scars of the bull-$hit that happened to us but there's no reason to let bad memories define who we are and how we act today. I had to deal with all that garbage as well as defend myself in physical situations (except you have no legal ramifications when you live on a military base overseas, you only run the risk of deportation) and I think I turned out alright.

Everyone deals with some amount of mental and emotional pain, relatively speaking. Bullies tend to vent their insecurities and problems on the smaller guy, just as somebody's probably vented out their insecurities and problems on them. Yet while the little guys and gals do what they are supposed to, bullies seemingly completely devote themselves to being no funs. That's fine, facebook and myspace offer some nice features...one of which is the ability to look where past schoolmates are in life and I haven't seen one bully from my years overseas or in NJ who has made a positive difference in his own life. So f-it. I say rise above, keep your chin up and your eyes forward.

[Brackstone]

I don't want to offend anyone or sound like an insensitive prick as I love this message board and reading what others have to say, but I feel like many people carry way too much emotional baggage which resulted from things that happened years and years ago. Life is too short and precious to let the "Donut Holes" in grade school and high school mess it up permanently. .....

Koji,

I agree with what you are saying. I have a lot of emotional things going on in my life including lots of mistreatment when I was younger and several very traumatic experiences.

However I still remain a functional person and I do my best to not let "things" get to me. However I know people that have gone through a fraction of what I have been through and they are a wreck.

This sort of class or situation is basically forcing people to look at themselves, something most people rarely do. Nobody ever looks inside their heart these days imo.

Before you can think outside the box you need to open it up.

^ Damn that's a good quote

[JC Viper]

Yeah well having your friends abandon you and your parents shun you for being a bad child will leave some pretty permanent scars. Till this day I have this problem with trusting people no matter how hard I put to terms. Of course this is piled on top of a car accident that left the right side of my head in pretty bad shape internally. If anything my life span probably won't be as long as normal so having to put up with crap in a shorter lifespan isn't the best. It would be nice to have close friends again.

[Wrider]

To be honest this exercise wouldn't do anything for me. Until Junior year of high school, I was the quiet observer type. I saw everything and said nothing. Only time I was ever noticed was to be teased usually. I've always been a big guy. Fat, overweight, obese, whatever you want to call me. And I used to let it get to me. I was a very emotional little kid. Someone said one thing and I'd let it ruin my whole day.

Now is a different story.

I use my body to make others laugh. I know I'm overweight. I know I'm bigger than average. But I make sure others can laugh with me instead of at me. I'm pretty sure the majority of you would laugh pretty hard when a 100 lb 5'3" girl jokingly hits me, and I recoil as if really hurt "Watch out! I'm delicate!"

My advice to anyone that is enduring teasing is to take it like a joke among friends. Then go and hand it right back. That's won me more friends than anything.

Wrider

[Funderbird]

I agree with wrider, be lighthearted and people will stop "picking" on you...I was beat to a pulp three to four days a week up untill my Junior year of high school. I was 140LBS and kinda short, then between soph and junior year I gained 80 LBS and grew almost 7 inches. Hand developed a aggressive aditude towards bullies. Gave em one chance, they didn't leave me alone when I asked them to...Kapow! This isn't the right way to handle the situation. But it was the only thing I could do.