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My sister has forbidden my Bro-inlaw from getting a bike for 20 years. A month ago he bought an 81 XS400 and brought it home. He parked it in the garage to fix all the dumb little crap any 25+ year old bike needs fixed while taking a rider training course and get his skills back from when he rode dirtbikes as a kid. But the stated claim of the bike is 'To get her used to the idea of a bike.' Next year I believe there will be a new VTX parked there instead, lol.

And it is working. Sis is adapting to him having a bike well, she even stopped bitchin at me every time I ride over to take Del out for a blast. He only had a permit until last weekend, so he needed a licensed rider to go out with and practice. He took a training course, spent twice the money on gear that he spent on the bike and it seems to have worked for him.

I started riding at age 6-7 with the direct Parental Instruction that no streetbike would be tolerated when the time came. When I turned 16 the folks went away for a weekend and when they came back, I had an RD-350LC sitting in the driveway .

They still fed me for a few years after that...... but Mom would never sit on a bike or go for a spin with me until the day she died. Any other woman in my life knew from Day 1 that a motorcycle was never too far from my asscheeks....

I had to move to Hawaii and actually threaten to get a moped instead. Of course, I don't think I ever really planned on the moped, but the thought seemed to calm some fears and let the sales pitch work. But in truth, none of that works. There will come a moment when you have to just jump off the fence and get it no matter what. Riding courses, small bikes, gear, and maturity will help them get over it. I also agree that the only person that is important in the family is the wife. Last I checked, she is the only one that I sleep with.

Oh, you can start to play a little game that I played with all of us in the car. We would race to see who could find the most motorcylcles on the road. This also helps you to be more aware of your surroundings when you finally do get a bike. (notice I said, "when")

I also took the safety course first. That seemed to help me build some confidence.

Greg . wrote:Hey All,

I am seriously considering getting into riding and am wondering if you all caught flak from family, friends, etc ... and what, if anything, you did about it?

As far as anyone (family & friends) giving me a hard time, I'll tell them what I want to do and that will be the end of it. However, my wife is a different story. I believe that she does have some serious "veto power" as she will be the one most seriously affected if something bad happens to me.

Right now, she is ... shall I say ... 'resistant'. She's not adamantly stomping her foot down, but she's not real crazy about me taking up riding either. Part of that may be that since she's a physical therapist, she has to deal with the rehabilitation of injuries day in and day out.

Anyway, have any of you had to deal with this from a wife/husband?

geezuz christ mate !!!!


Here in Oz the men wear the pants, what the puck is going on over there



You go and buy ya bike and you tell her if she is lucky you might let her wash it for you on sundays.




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shane-o wrote:You go and buy ya bike and you tell her if she is lucky you might let her wash it for you on sundays.

let us know how that one works out for you shane-o.

jaskc78 wrote:

shane-o wrote:You go and buy ya bike and you tell her if she is lucky you might let her wash it for you on sundays.

let us know how that one works out for you shane-o.

im still claiming royalties from this as I put into play some time ago.

ANd me wife looks good in a bikini while washing my bike, and sometimes when i have really been naughty she calls up a few of friends and they came around to help her.....i have video

From a wife's standpoint (me to hubby):

"No problem - but if you get a bike, I get one, too

(See, I had my own ulterior motive - I wanted to ride.) Worked for us. It'll work out.

The only ones who think I'm totally off my rocker are my parents. They tell me "you're too old" (48) . . . . They should know me better by now - if you tell me I CAN'T, then I'll prove otherwise.

Nancy

shane-o wrote:

Greg . wrote:Hey All,


Right now, she is ... shall I say ... 'resistant'. She's not adamantly stomping her foot down, but she's not real crazy about me taking up riding either. Part of that may be that since she's a physical therapist, she has to deal with the rehabilitation of injuries day in and day out.

Anyway, have any of you had to deal with this from a wife/husband?

geezuz christ mate !!!!

Here in Oz the men wear the pants, what the puck is going on over there

You go and buy ya bike and you tell her if she is lucky you might let her wash it for you on sundays.
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My guess is that you're not married, are you shane-o? Marriage is supposed to be a partnership, and things generally go a bit more smoothly all around when this sort of thing is taken slowly.

Besides, it looks like Greg isn't anywhere near ready to buy a bike this week. Why push his wife's buttons, when there's a chance she may "come around" on her own if he takes some time to get her used to the idea? After all, she hasn't said, "No," merely expressed some resistance.

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shane-o wrote: geezuz christ mate !!!!

Here in Oz the men wear the pants, what the puck is going on over there

You go and buy ya bike and you tell her if she is lucky you might let her wash it for you on sundays..

shane-o wrote: im still claiming royalties from this as I put into play some time ago.

ANd me wife looks good in a bikini while washing my bike, and sometimes when i have really been naughty she calls up a few of friends and they came around to help her.....i have video

Thanks for the advice, shane-o

My wife looks good in a bikini, too -- and has some very pretty friends! Ya reckon that would work for ME, too ???? lol

... On second thought ... she's been a really good 'un for coming up on 25 years. No need to end it with a skillet on my head. LOL I might try it ... but when (not IF) it fails I will SWEAR it was ALL IN JEST !!!

Oh ... and I (and I'm sure the other guys here) would LOVE to see that video! Please post it up. lol

Lion_Lady wrote:

shane-o wrote:

Greg . wrote:Hey All,


Right now, she is ... shall I say ... 'resistant'. She's not adamantly stomping her foot down, but she's not real crazy about me taking up riding either. Part of that may be that since she's a physical therapist, she has to deal with the rehabilitation of injuries day in and day out.

Anyway, have any of you had to deal with this from a wife/husband?

geezuz christ mate !!!!

Here in Oz the men wear the pants, what the puck is going on over there

You go and buy ya bike and you tell her if she is lucky you might let her wash it for you on sundays.
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My guess is that you're not married, are you shane-o? Marriage is supposed to be a partnership, and things generally go a bit more smoothly all around when this sort of thing is taken slowly.

Besides, it looks like Greg isn't anywhere near ready to buy a bike this week. Why push his wife's buttons, when there's a chance she may "come around" on her own if he takes some time to get her used to the idea? After all, she hasn't said, "No," merely expressed some resistance.

P

I have been married for 9 years and with my wife for 14years

We have a very equal relationship, so equal, that If I need to persue activities in my life whether they be risk taking or not, provided that the level of respect for our partner exisits and is maintained, then there is no resistance and it goes both ways.

My wife would never try to prevent me from riding a bike, that doesnt mean she isnt affraid that I may be hurt or worse, it just means she puts her own selfish wants and needs behind her to allow me to be who I am, as I would do for her.

Your offering is just shifting the balance of power to this poor guys wife by instructing him to await approval from his wife before he persues an activity that is not disrespectful or imorral, causing him to feel like a 5 year old who wants a 3 pound block of chocolate while shooping with his mom. Why should he in an equal relation ship be bound by his wife so she can be selfish by denying him the freedom to ride a bike just becuase she is scared of the unkown ??? selfish selfish selfish .

If it has to do with the finacial impact on their situation or if he is doing it for some other hidden agenda to impact upon her negatively or just maybe he doesnt allow her to be who she is..... then fair enough, but if he just wants to ride because its his dream and she stops it just because she can then that is wrong. She is not the one riding, he is, so what if she is worried about his safety !!! im sure he has assessed whether its an acceptable risk and has decided it is, its her issue that she lives in fear not his.




Living in fear sucks !!!



and im spent



any further relation advice please feel free to contact me ay time


Dr Shane-o.





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