I am 50 years old and am not a newcomer to riding. I have been riding probably over 40 years now. My mom is srill hoping that I'll outgrow this nasty habit but she has given up nagging me about it a long time ago. My dad rode some in his youth but pretty much gave it up with marriage and a family. From his questions and partially hidden interest I think that he wishes that he could still ride some.
We had horses during most of my childhood and it never bothered my mom at all for me to take off on them. For some reason the bikes scared her more.
There is an element of risk in any activity that we do. Just do all that you can to tilt the odds more to your favor. Demonstrating safety awareness over the long haul may help your mom to accept your new toy. Good luck.
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Hi Henriettaah
My mother was terrified of bikes and of the thought of me getting one. I bought my first bike when I was in my early twenties and living away from home. My mother didn't know I had it. When I moved back down close to my folks I sold it. I just couldn't face my mother's reaction, which I knew would be extreme and interminable.
I'd always intended to buy another bike sometime, but I never did - not until three years ago (I'm 53 now). I've been regretting all the years of not riding ever since.
It's hard on parents. Its often the case that we are much more fearful on behalf of someone else, especially our children, than we are for ourselves - which might explain your mother's apparent hypocricy. If I were you I'd just accept that she feels that way about your getting a bike. It sounds like you are not going to get her approval, so I wouldn't even seek it. Bear in mind also that human motivation is rarely simple and often irrational. So it's worth remembering that whatever the reason for her reacting this way, it's almost certainly partly because she loves you and genuinely fears for your safety.
Having said that, you need to make your own choices. She did.
My mother never knew I used to ride a bike until the day she died. She had peace of mind (falsely of course) and I had the regrets.
Cheers
My mother was terrified of bikes and of the thought of me getting one. I bought my first bike when I was in my early twenties and living away from home. My mother didn't know I had it. When I moved back down close to my folks I sold it. I just couldn't face my mother's reaction, which I knew would be extreme and interminable.
I'd always intended to buy another bike sometime, but I never did - not until three years ago (I'm 53 now). I've been regretting all the years of not riding ever since.
It's hard on parents. Its often the case that we are much more fearful on behalf of someone else, especially our children, than we are for ourselves - which might explain your mother's apparent hypocricy. If I were you I'd just accept that she feels that way about your getting a bike. It sounds like you are not going to get her approval, so I wouldn't even seek it. Bear in mind also that human motivation is rarely simple and often irrational. So it's worth remembering that whatever the reason for her reacting this way, it's almost certainly partly because she loves you and genuinely fears for your safety.
Having said that, you need to make your own choices. She did.
My mother never knew I used to ride a bike until the day she died. She had peace of mind (falsely of course) and I had the regrets.
Cheers
Hud
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“Man has no right to kill his brother. It is no excuse that he does so in uniform: he only adds the infamy of servitude to the crime of murder.”
Percy Bysshe Shelley
SV-Wolf's Bike Blog