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Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

I was already to do my MSF course and had money ready for a bike and my wife does a 180 turn and says she doesnt want me to get a bike now.

She said its too dangerous and she would worry all the time.

Her brother died in a slow slow speed motorbike crash so i can't go too crazy at her.

What do you tell your wifes/gf's about safety?

you have a long uphill climb there, and you possibly may never reach the summit.

she has some valid saftey concerns there since a family member died on a bike.

possible things to do:
1 find out if her brother was wearing good saftey gear or any at all
2 find out how experienced he was
3 take her to the MSF course before you take it and show her how safe and controlled motorcycling can be.
4 DONT push her
5 make a commitment to safety. tell her if you ride you will always wear full gear, ride only during the day for the first year, no booze or drugs etc.

oh boy!

that's gonna be tough.

i know a good divorce lawyer, he'll fix you up.


just kidding

anyway... you're in a very bad position being that her brother died from a bike crash.

bikes are risky. we all ride knowing the risk, at least i hope everyone knows, and then we try to minimize those risk.

but some things are just unavoidable and that's where we hope our riding gear does it's job for us.

anyway... tell her that you will take all the precautions and that you'll wear good riding gear.

if she agrees then you can blow huge money on high quality riding gear to better protect yourself.

get some dainese leathers, gloves, and boots!

If her brother died in a motorcycle accident I don't think there's much you can do to change her mind.

You may be married, but you're still an individual with your own life to live. You married her so that you could share her life, not run it. The least she could do is treat you the same. It's your call, but I would ask myself what would happen if I tried to stop her from doing something she really wanted to do.

What do you tell your wifes/gf's about safety?

I tell her there's a lot of other things I could be doing that are at least as dangerous as riding motorcycles. For example, skydiving, rock climbing, and hunting Cape Buffalo.

In my case, it also helped that I've ridden bicycles on the street for 20 years. Compared to the thin jersey, shorts, and 6-oz. helmet I wear when riding my bicycle, my wife thinks my leathers, full-face helmet, gloves, and boots look like real protection.

My mother was a harder sell, because of a young nephew who died in a motorcycle crash 12 years ago. I pointed out to her that the circumstances are completely different. I wear the proper gear, take a conservative approach to riding, and have a well-developed sense of self-preservation. My cousin who was killed, on the other hand, was riding at night, in the rain, without any gear, even a helmet. It was 2:00am and he was going home from a frat party, where he'd been drinking. He ran a red light and got t-boned by a cager.

No matter what you do, don't ask MotoF150 for his opinion...

Anyway, my wife said absolutely no, and then waffled for a few months and then finally said yes. What changed her mind was getting her involved in the shopping proccess. She helped me pick out the bike so it was something she liked too.

Problem is, after I bought it this weekend she changed her mind and all I hear about is how horrible of a move it was. Lesson? You really can't win...

I would suggest that the marriage is more important than the bike and to keep that in mind!

-Andrew

JB, apparently your spouse was agreeable to you riding the bike and then changed her mind. IF your brother-in-law died subsequent to her agreeing to you riding then you have a real problem convincing her that it can be safe. However if he died prior to your expressed interest and she agreed regardless, then her change of heart may have more to do with controlling you than with safety. In either event you have a problem, but the solutions will be different.

Having added a little stress to your life I would like to offer a solution, but unfortunately I have no idea how to address either problem.

Good luck.

Thanks for the advice! That helps.

He was not wearing a helmet and the brain bleed is what ended up killing him.

I always wear mine. I will tell her about the safety gear.

Your advice is really helping. Thanks!

jonbailey19808 wrote:Thanks for the advice! That helps.

He was not wearing a helmet and the brain bleed is what ended up killing him.

I always wear mine. I will tell her about the safety gear.

Your advice is really helping. Thanks!

yes, and don't forget... tell her you need dainese riding gear for maximum protection.