Wife's friends and their efforts to sabotage your...

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roscowgo · #21 Unread post by **roscowgo** » Thu Mar 22, 2007 1:35 am

It's a tough row to hoe.

On the one hand.... your wifes friends. None of their bidness. tell em to "pee" off.

I'd say get her involved in the bike riding. Hunt her down an open MSF spot and see if she's willing.

Thu Mar 22, 2007 1:54 am

roscowgo wrote:Hunt her down an open MSF spot and see if she's willing.

Only do that if it's something she wants. If she only does it because you are or feels forced into it then she will be miserable. I haven't even started my training yet but about 20 of the local riding coaches say that someone who's forced into it is the worst kind of student. They just look for a reason to fail.

roscowgo · #23 Unread post by **roscowgo** » Thu Mar 22, 2007 2:07 am

Sorry, i expressed it badly there.

I didnt mean enroll her and tell her "yer gonna learn to riiiiiiide woman! now get me a sammich." no no not at all. wouldnt hurt a bit to see if there are any open spots beforehand though. It would be fairly frustrating to have her interested in taking the thing and not able to find a spot.

He's already married though. I'm quite sure he understands exactly what trying to force his wife into something would get him. (bruised bloody berated and with an aching back for having to snuggle the dog.)

Kim · #24 Unread post by **Kim** » Thu Mar 22, 2007 6:58 am

Just like everyone said, do all you can to assure your wife that you are taking precautions to keep yourself safe. Then ask your wife to tell her friends to mind their own business.

flw · #25 Unread post by **flw** » Thu Mar 22, 2007 8:14 am

Assuring my wife with a safety course and being part of the process did no good.

It came down to something like this " I have supported your efforts to do things that brought you joy in life, sometimes together and sometime apart. I would hope that if you don't support what brings me joy, that at least you wouldn't step on what brings me joy. You may not understand, but I've tried to do my best so maybe we just need to agree to disagree on this one.

MotoF150 · Thu Mar 22, 2007 11:26 am

when you get a bike you will forget ur wife even exists, then while ur out riding you will think about all the stupid things you did with ur wife in the past, like going shoe shopping with her, or cleaning or cooking and stuff like that, then you will feel stupid how you wasted ur life away spending ur time with her, but in the same way you will feel relieved, relaxed and a new sence of freedom you have never felt before, you will feel like you spent ur past 20 years in prison and ur free for the first time in ur life. GO OUT AND BUY THAT NEW BIKE! --- NOW!!!--- you tell her, if you do wreck and die riding that bike at least you will die with a smile on ur face!

Apitoxin · #27 Unread post by **Apitoxin** » Thu Mar 22, 2007 3:40 pm

Just to help out, here are some very simple rules to follow by in this forum and in motorcycling to help you start out;

1. Don't acknowledge the existance of MotoF150.
2. Take the MSF course.
3. Who's MotoF150.
4. ATGATT. All the Gear, All the time. That gear is your only safety. Use it.
5. What department store sells MotoF150 repellant?
6. It's a bad idea to get a bike that's typically too strong for beginners.
7. Take your time on the motorcycle and learn everything you can about it.
8. Don't listen to MotoF150.

Wordherder · Thu Mar 22, 2007 4:23 pm

You're getting great advice here. MSF course, full gear, no alcohol (I mean it!) = as safe as anyone can be on the road.

I like to think I'm at least as safe as being in a cage because I'm seriously *paying attention* out there. I know I'm vulnerable, so I'm being proactive, not reactive.

I think the MSF has made me a better driver when I'm in a cage too. Much of the MSF course is applicable behind the wheel as well as behind the handlebars.

My wife took the MSF course with me (in fact, it was HER idea). Changed her attitude completely - she owns a Suzuki S40 now, and looks pretty freakin' HAAAAWT riding down the road in front of me. Raaarrr.

OldBlock · #29 Unread post by **OldBlock** » Fri Mar 23, 2007 1:40 am

MSF Course is done, did it in September, though I will review the material again since it's been some time. We're going out to dinner this weekend and I am going to look at bikes on Saturday so I am sure that the subject will come up and I am now armed with a boat load of info from all of you to have a reasonable discussion with her. Thanks!

OldBlock · #30 Unread post by **OldBlock** » Fri Mar 23, 2007 1:42 am

Wordherder wrote: I think the MSF has made me a better driver when I'm in a cage too. Much of the MSF course is applicable behind the wheel as well as behind the handlebars.

I couldn't agree more. My cage driving has improved a lot. After taking the class they should do similar training for teens before they get their license.