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camthepyro · Wed May 03, 2006 3:30 pm

I personally think cheating on someone is one of the worst things you can do. And if my best friend (of 5 years) cheated on his girl, I would tell her as well. She deserves to know, and if he was a true friend, he would understand the circumstances.

#12 Unread post by **Jamers!** » Wed May 03, 2006 5:35 pm

well thanks guys, apprectiate all the imput and i think im gonna go for it. I dont work in his dept directly anyhow so i wont see him very often. I agree with what most of ya said. He is kind of scummy and she deserves a dude better than him, and i think she may like me, so i might be in luck

JWF

Myself002 · Wed May 03, 2006 6:20 pm

9000white wrote:would you have told him if you saw her cheating????

nope it's none of my business really, its between the couple.

at the same time let me say I wouldnt lie. If she or he or whoever asked me if something like that happened i would refer em to the other

Loonette · #14 Unread post by **Loonette** » Thu May 04, 2006 3:56 am

Myself002 wrote:
9000white wrote:would you have told him if you saw her cheating????
nope it's none of my business really, its between the couple.

at the same time let me say I wouldnt lie. If she or he or whoever asked me if something like that happened i would refer em to the other

I'm with "Myself002" on this one. It's really not your place to "spread the word" as it were. What I would have done is said to (now "ex") friend, I can't believe you would cheat on her - you should tell her - but if you don't tell her, then I'm not comfortable being your friend anymore. Or something like that. But in a sense, you assisted in the demise of their relationship, and now you want to swoop in and pick up the broken pieces? I don't know - seems kind of weird.

As far as dating her now that all is said and done... well, good luck. You've definitely got the makings for a sticky love triangle here, and with you having to work under this guy - it doesn't smell too good to me. I don't think hiding the relationship from this guy is the answer - that's less like a relationship and more like game playing. If you're absolutely in love with this gal - if you picture yourself raising a family and growing old with her, then maybe it's worth it. But if you just think she's cute and interesting, you might want to just let it pass. But again - good luck.

Cheers,
Loonette

CNF2002 · #15 Unread post by **CNF2002** » Thu May 04, 2006 4:16 am

Ah Loonette...such a cynic! Though maybe this will become complicated. Guy dates girl, cheats, guys friend tells girl, girl dumps guy, girl dates friend, girl cheats with ex, friend gets dumped for ex, ex dumps girl. Who wins? Their coworkers, for entertainment you cant find on TV

Nibblet99 · Thu May 04, 2006 6:13 am

CNF2002 wrote:Ah Loonette...such a cynic! Though maybe this will become complicated. Guy dates girl, cheats, guys friend tells girl, girl dumps guy, girl dates friend, girl cheats with ex, friend gets dumped for ex, ex dumps girl. Who wins? Their coworkers, for entertainment you cant find on TV

I disagree... sounds like the weekly plot of most soaps

but anyway back to the original... I'm impressed, there seems to be so few honourable people anymore. The moment he screwed around, he demostrated a huge disregard for her feelings, and if he were to be upset by your dating her, it would only be a fraction of the feelings of pain and guilt he deserves. I say go for it, love comes so few and far between now, its silly to pass up the chance.

If you were here, I'd shake your hand for being a true gentleman, honest and high in integrity.

Wishing you good luck
Andy

BigChickenStrips · Thu May 04, 2006 6:35 am

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to clarify and un-sully my good name. i didnt cheat on my ex, she cheated on me. several times.
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Myself002 · Thu May 04, 2006 7:30 am

Loonette wrote:
Myself002 wrote:
9000white wrote:would you have told him if you saw her cheating????
nope it's none of my business really, its between the couple.

at the same time let me say I wouldnt lie. If she or he or whoever asked me if something like that happened i would refer em to the other
I'm with "Myself002" on this one. It's really not your place to "spread the word" as it were. What I would have done is said to (now "ex") friend, I can't believe you would cheat on her - you should tell her - but if you don't tell her, then I'm not comfortable being your friend anymore. Or something like that. But in a sense, you assisted in the demise of their relationship, and now you want to swoop in and pick up the broken pieces? I don't know - seems kind of weird.

As far as dating her now that all is said and done... well, good luck. You've definitely got the makings for a sticky love triangle here, and with you having to work under this guy - it doesn't smell too good to me. I don't think hiding the relationship from this guy is the answer - that's less like a relationship and more like game playing. If you're absolutely in love with this gal - if you picture yourself raising a family and growing old with her, then maybe it's worth it. But if you just think she's cute and interesting, you might want to just let it pass. But again - good luck.

Cheers,
Loonette

I have to +15 this, just 1 doesnt seem like it would do