apollofrost wrote:It's not that girls like a**holes, it's that they tend to like assertive guys who are comfortable in their own skin, however by assertive I do not mean disrespectful.
They like to be with people that they can spend time with and interact with on more than one level. That they can feel comfortable with.
If you're unsure and ill at ease chances are ( unless the girl has already decided that she likes you ) that she's not going to be into you, because why should she?
Now an interesting factor comes in to play, trophies. A lot of girls like (on some level) to be able to tell their friends and themselves how great their boyfriend is. It's just a fact of life. Now I'm not saying that girls are going to go around picking and choosing solely based on that, but it is a factor that varies in importance according to the girl.
Luckily it's not all about looks, because some of the biggest trophies are social. He's sweet, he cares for me, I can feel comfortable with him.
Now what's my advice?
Ok, number one meet new people. Walk over, say "Hi!". Meet friends of your friends, and even if you don't end up dating... you now have more friends!
Be open, but not insulting.
Ask questions, pursue lines of inquiry. Chances are if somebody mentions something to you, they want to talk about it.
Listen! No, don't wait till she's done talking, listen and think about what she says!
Don't just be there because there's a chance that you might hook-up, be with the girl because you want to be. Who knows, she just might want to be with you too.
Just my $2
okay honestly, this is the complete opposite of me. First, I am not joking at all, or making any of this up but at the school I go to, but I have recieved three cards from girls and NOT fecking kiddng, got asked to the dance three different times (by different people that sent the cards).(I dont know if this is normal for white people but def. not for Korean people...) (I feel kind of betchy writing this but I gotta prove a point.) and to have some kind of evidence that im not making all of this up trying to look like motof150.
Now why do I still have this card 1 month after Valentines day? because shes my
girlfriend right now and I want to show her later to get some brownie points.
and why is this happening to me? i really have no idea. Im not macho, im not assertive, and I dont think there can be anything really that special or trophies about me.
So what do I think the order of importance are for girls?
1. Personality/honesty
1 1/16. good looks
2. I can't think of anything more right now
3. I bet the girls here are getting a real kick out of this.
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106. Macho macho man
now girls, tell me how close I was!
and I really hope no one I know reads this post. Gawd why did I have to make my username my real name.. I should made it something like "the dragon" or something like that.